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A Louisiana Justice of the Peace denied an interracial couple a marriage license on account that he was concerned for any children they might have.


Now first of all.  Regardless of a marriage license, people can have children without getting married these days, so there’s no logic there.

And secondly, the very people that make statements like this are the very ones who are supporting the continuance of such a poor mindset as “different races shouldn’t mix because they’ll have a tough childhood.”  (Tough childhoods exist regardless of race, and if humans choose to spend their time arguing who had the more difficult childhood, well, we haven’t learned anything in the last twenty years or so)

The people who make race a problem are the ones who refuse to stand up to such remarks and biases.  Situations can change if people let them change, if they make an effort to encourage others that their prejudices and biases are unnecessary and hurtful.

If a person of influence and power in a community such as a Justice of the Peace, Minister, Priest or Rabbi continues to tell people, “You know, if you marry someone else of a different race, people aren’t going to like it because they don’t think blacks and whites should mix,” then they are only encouraging the ridiculous racism that exists in this country.  Religious leaders and Legal authorities with the power to marry citizens are there to give marriage licenses, not determine whether or not the couple “deserves” them.  That’s almost like trying to play God and place judgement.  If you were allowed to play God, God would step down from the Heavens and pick someone to take His place, but no, that is NOT how it works.  And if people are so Christian or whatever other spirituality, they should recognize that it’s not very Christian or Jewish of them to try and place that judgement.

As a biracial young woman, I can attest that my parents are still together and that though a FEW aspects of my childhood were difficult because of my mixed race, I would not want my life any other way.  It made me unique, beautiful and more aware of the dangers of holding prejudices.  That and most problems were caused by OTHER PEOPLE.  (You catch my drift here?)  I am no better or worse than a white woman or a black woman, and I love who I am.  It angers me that people such as this justice would presume that he needs to prevent children of mixed races from being born, that he feels he is preventing pain.  How do you determine these things?  And what RIGHT do YOU have to make that decision for someone else?

If anything, I would encourage people to seek out spouses in other ethnicities if they feel the attraction or are interested.  Of course some things will be different, of course some differences in culture and habits will be frustrating.  It isn’t any different from a German marrying an Italian.  Sure they are both Caucasian, but culturally those differences might aggravate all those involved.  But that sort of experience is part of the beauty of living and being married.  Tough times can happen in a white couple’s marriage or a black couple’s marriage as well as a mixed race marriage, and if it were easy peasy perfect pie all the time, there wouldn’t be any point to the experience.  If you don’t encounter difficulties in your life, how do you learn?  If you don’t allow interracial relationships, you lose the chance for a different kind of beauty to exist and a different kind of talent or adventure for a child to explore.  For this Justice of the Peace, I hope he can step away from his situation and see how he is wrong, and how HE can learn from his mistakes and his misunderstandings of multi-ethnic life and culture and of the children he so adamantly wanted to “SAVE.”


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