I have realized through various experiences I have had in the last year, health scares of my own and people I know, an injury I had, people coming in and out of my life, etc., to keep those I love and care about close.
If someone is a priority in your life, you let them know as often as you can. It’s that simple. Every day if you are able! If you have friends you care about but don’t see every day, still keep in touch as often as you can, if they truly matter to you, for if you are to put them on the back burner, how are they to know over time that they are still important to you?
And personal energy is important. There needs to be balance. You need to take care of yourself. If you are the one giving all the time, learn to step back. If the person really wants to be in your life, friend, family member, significant other, etc., they will let you know, and remind you of your importance in their life as well and give back, because they will WANT to be there and have you be a part of their lives.
I bring this up because I have had loved ones, both friends and family struggling with this stress, and after seeing various posts on facebook, and knowing my own experiences, I want them to know and understand that it is okay to step back.
In some cases, for example in my own various relationships where I have felt this pain, I might step back as well. I have felt mentally burnt out because of a number of events in the last year, and for my own sanity, I might retreat, but it doesn’t mean I don’t care; I simply am making the choice to take better care of myself.
I am also hoping these people I care about, will see the need to reevaluate how they treat other people, because in my heart, I know they are good people, they just might not see how they hurt. Or they don’t feel they have to give or need to give, that a person will continue to hand them love on a silver platter and expect an obedient friend or romantic companion who will give until they have nothing left to continue to act in that manner towards them (because they believe or desire this type of relationship to be acceptable.) And then, if that person cannot give what the non-understanding person expects, they might move onto another person, or go back to that person they initially drained when they have recovered (if that person allows that behavior back in their life). I don’t need to tell you that that is not an example of a healthy relationship. Eventually someone will give up or experience emotional distress from the behavior.
For those who give and forget to give to themselves, a little self-love is very healthy. If you are afraid of giving, but you want someone to be in your life, (a lover, a close friend, family member, etc.), think about giving a little more, and you will get amazing things back. If you care more about material things, that will become evident over time, and you will lose the person you care about. Be proactive, and make a change to better your mind and your heart.
That being said, I might need the occasional reminder to let go of what I can’t control and let go of those people and practices that no longer serve the path of a positive life experience. I needed to get this out for a long time, and I struggled with the wording, so if this seems a little rough around the edges, that is why. The biggest piece I want people to take away from this is that I’m not trying to attack anyone, I simply am explaining an awareness I’ve gained and if it is beneficial to others who might be going through a similar experience, I hope it can help.
Thank you for listening!
Peace, Love and Blessings! <3